The worst topic known to man, SINGLENESS

Let’s talk about the worst topic known to man, SINGLENESS. Ugh, I hate talking about my singleness, but imma do it because I love you guys, so here it goes…

I am 23 years old, and I have never been in a relationship. There I said it. It is now all out there. My therapist has a lot to say about this topic (and y’all know she is right), but I choose to ignore and wallow in my loneliness. Anybody else out there like me?

It is the worst feeling, especially when your social media feeds are filled with engagement and wedding photos. Sometimes I just want to throw my phone against the wall in frustration. At this point you can usually find me arguing with God about his inability to find me a man. (Let me just say that I am so thankful for God’s grace and unfailing love for me, because there are some days I don’t know how he puts up with me.)

I have given ole Tinder and Bumble a good try (mainly when I have been drinking if I am being honest), and it is just not for me. Some people are in amazing relationships that have met on these apps, but the anxiety of “online” dating is just too much for me to handle.

I am not here to try and make the topic of singleness lighter or better. There are some amazing articles, books, and sermons out there that can speak to the “beauty” of singleness. In full honesty, sometimes these articles, books, and sermons just frustrate me, and I can’t even read/listen to them. I just want to scream “singleness is not a gift!” at the top of my frustrated lungs. (Again, thankful for God’s grace over my life.)

I am simply here to tell you that you are not alone. If you are living in singleness, and it frustrates or scares you, you are not alone. I wish I could offer a magic answer to make the hurt go away, but some days it just hurts. Your frustration is valid. Your fear is valid. Your hurt is valid.

In my opinion, the worst topic known to man is singleness. If you are feeling lonely just know that you are not alone in the loneliness. There are others out there struggling with you hoping that the best is yet to come.